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One of The Game's ideas is that you should enjoy what you do, and if you can't enjoy it, it means you haven't found your passion. Internal Family Systems (IFS) believes that if we are in self, we can see our different parts and their interests, and then make a decision based on the majority agreement of those parts. This decision is made when the parts are satisfied with it.
The shallow idea of pursuing one's interests has become a preoccupation for people. Everyone thinks that if they are not successful in what they are doing or if they don't constantly enjoy it, it's simply because they don't have enough interest in it. This is a completely frivolous concept that mass media and superficial success books sell, serving as an excuse to blame individuals if the specific ideas they provide do not work. They insinuate that it is evident that you didn't have enough interest, and it's your fault. It's a form of gaslighting, deflecting responsibility, blaming oneself, or attacking instead of defending. It's a way to escape and avoid facing the truth.
The subject is not really about interest; it's primarily about perseverance. It's not even solely about talent. Talent and interest are just the areas in which perseverance can be applied. These areas and interests are not limited to one or two exceptional qualities in a person but encompass various interests, attractions, and potentials that can be strengthened or activated depending on the environment in which one grows. Others may fade away or not be strengthened, but that doesn't mean they don't exist. Therefore, what you are currently good at doesn't necessarily mean that you had the most talent in that area and that you became successful because you discovered it. In fact, what we are good at is usually a result of the environment, encouragement, and unconscious psychological influences rather than just talent.
Many available guides tend to focus on one's interests or success, which creates a veil over your own awareness, diminishing your uniqueness and making you doubt yourself. Otherwise, if there weren't so many guides, a person's raw mind could have better followed the path they desired, and naturally, they could have become successful in it. For this reason, the abundance of motivational and skill-enhancement books tends to create more doubt and hesitancy, making you feel that if you lack a certain skill or don't think a certain way, then you have very little chance of achieving what you want. This intensifies perfectionism, procrastination, and dissatisfaction with oneself.
In this world full of information that pushes you in different directions, empowering critical and perfectionist parts, it is natural because there is a lot of new information that needs to be considered in each decision of our lives. Moreover, based on this abundance of information, there is a higher probability of feeling that you made the wrong decision. As a result, perfectionist and critical parts become more active, and the feeling of being a loser becomes much stronger. Therefore, The Game becomes a more fundamental aspect of people's lives, and sometimes they are forced to play it.
In these circumstances, paying attention to the IFS recommendation to unlearn old things instead of learning new ones is a good suggestion. We don't need to pile up new information on top of a mountain of previous information just to feel superior and like winners. We need to know that we are meant to live on the ground, and the farther away we distance ourselves from it, the farther we move from our true selves. As Rumi said, Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
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